Celebrate your sexuality!
One of the things I’ve had to come to terms with as an author is my liberal and abundant sex scenes, peppered throughout my writing. There’s shouting, there’s screaming, there’s moaning and groaning and, ultimately there’s a deep heart connection in the main characters. As with any art, people see whatever they see in my words and their perceptions may or may not match my intentions.
I have a lot of life experience that feeds my writing. Currently, I live a life of magic and wonder. It’s amazing. Everywhere I go, I meet amazing people. Everyday there’s an opportunity to be grateful about something. But it hasn’t always been that way.
I’ve had to grow through difficult lessons and challenging circumstances to get where I am today. Had to sort through old wounds that had left deep gashes in my soul. One of the most useful lessons came when I realized that the godawful, unhealthy, abusive relationship I was in was one that I had signed up for. I had signed on the dotted line, freely agreed to be with the controlling, unwilling to look at himself and change guy. What a relief that was to take responsibility for my actions.
When I escaped from that horrid relationship and refused to let myself be that guy’s victim, life changed. Doors opened. I wandered through the earth unencumbered, ridiculously happy and unattached. And then I met the guy of my dreams, the one whom I intend to share a joyous relationship with for the rest of my life. We’ve been together many years, in an “annoyingly happy relationship,” that gets better with age. Everything about this relationship works, unlike my last relationship where nothing worked. Everything about this relationship sings of committment to one another, to ourselves and to growth.
One of the places that needed healing in me was my relationship to my own sexuality. I took a long and thorough journey, examining the good, the bad and the ugly sides of sex. I’ve made loads of curious choices on this journey, some of them left scars and skidmarks. All of them served to help me heal.
I hope my books entertain, stimulate, provoke and maybe even help you heal a little bit if you need healing. Perhaps you might wonder about the experiences my characters are having and want some of your own incredible connections. All I can tell you is to keep on exploring. Look inside, look outside, and have fun. There’s an amazing world all around you if you only take the time to look and honor the beauty that’s inside of you.